The Asking Process
Couples and Family Therapy is often about asking a loved one to make certain changes on our behalf. I believe there are 2 significant parts of “the asking process:” how we ask (as opposed to what we ask), and paradoxically in separating ourselves from the expectation that the change request will be honored. The more…
Read MoreSiblings
I recently read a well developed article about sibling relationships in the August, 2010 Psychology Today Magazine (http://www.psychologytoday.com/) by H.E. Marano. Marano describes how this important family relationship, including sibling positioning, shapes who we are and the people we are attracted to as adults. I have a copy of it in my office.
Read MoreClear The Mind
I just returned from a drive to Big Sur. This is a good trip to clear one’s mind, calm the nervous system, and for couples to reconnect. The enormity of nature can put one’s problem-concerns in perspective. Good “therapy” but best to leave the kids at home for this one.
Read MoreThe Pornography Epidemic
I recently read an article by Wendy Maltz, LCSW (“Out of the Shadows: What’s The Prevalence of Porn Doing To Our Psyches?” (“Psychotherapy Networker,” November/December 2009). Mrs. Maltz quotes a 2004 Columbia University study revealing that 45% of teens admit to having friends who regularly view or download porn; a 2009 Harris Interactive Survey showing…
Read MoreInfidelity: A subtype
Infidelity is running rampant in our country. I hear about it all the time in my LA based psychotherapy practice. Current studies reveal: 1) that approximately 50% of married women and 55% of married men engaged in infidelity at some point during their relationship; and 2) roughly 69% of all marriages don’t last after an…
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